I have led an interesting life so far:
I was born a very anxious child. I remember worrying and checking on things that no one else my age even gave a second thought to.
I suffered from Panic Disorder, OCD, Separation Anxiety and Generalised Anxiety Disorder. For many years I was treated by various therapists and medications, but nothing seemed to hit home.
My anxiety was further entrenched when my father died suddenly when I was 11 years old.
This was the catalyst for a life-long journey to overcome these terrible afflictions.
My road led me to study Psychology but even more importantly to a man who trained and mentored me in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
I learnt the art of mindfulness, the philosophy of stoicism and began a new phase, a phase where I would overcome my anxiety in its entirety.
I went on to train with The Albert Ellis Institute from New York and now practice both Cognitive Behavioural Coaching as well as Rational Emotive Behavioural Coaching.
I am constantly learning and read at least one book a week on Stoicism, REBT or CBT.
Due to my past issues, I can empathise with my Clients and know where they are coming from.
Because, in some form or another, I have dealt with and overcome the same problems they are going through.
I treat my Clients like family. I care for each and every one of them and will go out of my way to help. In fact, I do not have a client that I am not still in contact with in one way or another.
My Practise is my choice of work, my passion and my mission.
I live to help people, and that’s what keeps me going.
ABOUT COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL COACHING
WHAT IS CBC?
Cognitive Behavioural Coaching (CBC) is a form of Life Coaching, where the ultimate goal is to train its users to become their own coach.
CBC achieves this by teaching its users to become self-reliant when it comes to identifying and dealing with problems in their lives — by developing problem-solving skills as well as helping them to identify and remove mental, emotional and behavioural blocks.
CBC is the most popular and effective form of Coaching used today and is structured on sound, evidence-based models that have been proven to work.
CBC provides a helping hand to better oneself by developing a practical set of steps, exercises, and techniques to follow. The people that practice CBC will become a better version of themselves, being more balanced, calm, rational, capable and not having their usual problems weighing on them, preventing their enjoyment of life.
The basics of CBC is learning to record your thoughts, look at them more realistically and then take control over them — ensuring that they work for you, instead of against you.
With CBC, you'll learn to change the way you think and feel—allowing you more time and energy to do the things you enjoy.
The core of Cognitive Behavioural Coaching holds that ‘Perception creates Reality.'
The premise of CBC is: how we think about or perceive the world, directly affects how we feel and behave.
This is known as the cognitive triangle — where thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are all interlinked and impact on one another. This means that one can change one’s feelings and behaviours by first examining and changing the instigating thoughts.
For example, if someone has an anxious thought, they will feel worried and behave in a nervous way. But if that same person realises that they are experiencing an anxious thought and take steps to examine and then change it, they will feel calmer and act more rationally.
So if a child believes they are going to fail a test, they will feel anxious and are then less likely to study effectively, which will lead to them doing badly in the test, which will perpetuate the cycle of anxious thinking that they will continue to do poorly.
Research demonstrates that CBT has been helpful in treating a number of common childhood problems—like coping with pain, stress and worries, adjusting to an illness, and dealing with problems at school or with friends or family. In fact, some recent research studies have shown that CBT can be more effective than medicines in treating pain and negative feelings. This is beginning to change the way doctors are seeing problems in children and we are trying to be the forerunners in a movement against medicating children at the drop of a hat and rather curing the cause not just focusing on the symptoms.
Specific treatment plans are individualised, so you and your child will learn a variety of different skills that will help them best cope with their particular symptoms. In general, you will learn:
What causes your symptoms?
Which skills will best help you cope with your symptoms?
How to identify negative thoughts that make you feel worse
How to change negative thoughts into more helpful ones that make you feel better